My Own Little Family

Tips to share

2010-03-10T13:44:00.000+08:00

This is just something that i think many of us aware but I still want to share the experience and offer some tips. Last night was the 5th day that Nur Kasih has been coughing and her temperature was like up and down. Up meaning before giving her medicine and down of course after. But the point that i want to share was the experience prior to that and last night.

The first day when Nur Kasih came down with fever and coughing, my wife and I brought her to the nearest Klinik Kesihatan here in Kajang. Surprisingly after waiting just 15 minutes (since we came on Friday and it was half an hour to 12.00pm) we sat down with the doctor. He checked on her lungs making sure they were clear and then temperature and lastly her throat. So he diagnosed that she had a throat infection since he saw them quite reddish and proceeded to write her prescription (of course I am just telling it this way not to discredit the doctor but just trying to make the story simpler). Afterwards, we came to the pharmacy and got 4 medicines for her. First was as usual Paracetamol, second Actifed syrup, third Salbutamol syrup and lastly antibiotics Erythromycin. So after getting the instructions from the pharmacist, we went back.

Now what would any normal concerned parents would do with all these prescriptions? I don't know what would they do but what we did instinctively was to start her on Paracetamol of course to help lower her temperature. The rest we didn't gave her straight away since my wife wanted to breastfed her first. So about 2 and a half hours later (after I came back from Friday prayers, oh forgot to tell you it was on a Friday), we started her off on the third medicine and still not giving her the rest, now some of you may ask why, but this is what's great about my wife and I. We knew for a fact about Actifed that it could cause drowsiness since both her and I often came down with runny nose and sneezing and if we started to give her at that time then afterwards we would have to contend with her staying up at the whole night after dozing off the entire afternoon. The third medicine was the Salbutamol syrup and the pharmacist told us that it was for her coughing. So of course we gave her this. The last of course was her antibiotics. Both my wife and I had an experience with antibiotics when our first daughter Nurul Iman also came down with fever and coughing before. At that time the first doctor that we met prescribed her a with a type of antibiotics that i could not remember. Then i can't remember why but we thought off bringing her to see a paedietrician and at that time the doctor asked us to stop giving her the antibiotics since it was quite strong for her age. So this time for Nur Kasih both of us agreed that we would hold the antibiotics and see how she would develop. So it came down to last night, it was already 5 days and she was still coughing and fever was still there. The paracetamol was about to finish. The Salbutamol we gave her consistently but the actifed we gave her any other time. The antibiotics, we didn't gave her even until now.

Last night we decided to bring her to Kajang hospital for advice and also to ask for more paracetamol since we were almost out. After waiting i think it was just 10 minutes, we sat down with the doctor. So he asked what's wrong with her, standard procedure and etc..he checked her lungs, temperature and throat. So the same diagnosis as before that her throat was reddish. But it didn't just end there, we also brought the with us the actifed and salbutamol and wanted to show the to the doctor what we gave her these past few days. Imagine our surprise that he forbid us to continue with actifed and also told us that salbutamol was not suitable for her condition of coughing, it was more suitable if she had fluids on her lungs to help clear it. He even told us that actually for the actifed hospitals were not allowed to prescribe to infants since if not careful could lead to overdose. I then asked about the antibiotics that we were prescribed with and he said that it was more suitable to treat infections on her lung and not for her throat. He instead prescribed us with another antibiotics that is more suitable to treat her throat infection and also nasal drops to help clear her phlegm through her nose rather than using the salbutamol syrup.

So what I learn from this experience was what I seen the other day from the Oprah Winfrey show when she invited Dr. Oz. The episode of the show was about medical mistakes. I don't think mine was a medical mistake but what i could relate was Dr. Oz had commented that when we put a lot of trust into someone then the question of judgement is no longer there. He said that whether we like it or not we still have to question ourselves and also our doctor on their decision and diagnosis. We still have to take responsibility on our well being and not too place all our confidence into someone. I mean doctors are still human and not that they often make mistakes but even though with all these medical advancements that human factor is still there. I also know for a fact that doctors treat through symptoms and sometimes a diagnosis could change once they see another symptom (too much of House). He recommended that we could always refer to second opinion for a diagnosis.

So summing up I would say:-
1. Arm yourself with a little bit of knowledge especially on what medicines were provided to you
2. Ask your doctor more on what he/she checks on you. Don't just let him take your blood pressure and then let the doctor just go hmm.. I often ask him what's the reading.
3. Ask for a second opinion if you have some doubts. It does not hurt to ask. These days even going to 1Malaysia clinic just takes RM1.00 to pay. (not inclusive of fuel and toll)

P/S: About the actifed, I think we could still give to infants but we still have to be careful not to overdose. I tried asking a friend who's wife is a doctor and he told me that he will confirm later. So I'll just update this post later.

Related link: Dr. Oz's 8 Ways to Avoid Medical Mistakes

Aik?...dah tido?

2010-02-23T12:04:00.001+08:00

Adik...adik Nur Kasih...sini tengok...ayah dgn ibu punyer facebook....adik...adik..adik?...aik...dah tido?....

Chinese New Year at Triang

2010-02-20T11:07:00.000+08:00

Ok...CNY baru je lepas...2 hari lps baru sampai dari Triang, Pahang pkl 10 lebih kot...kitaorg tumpang tido di rumah cousin wife dari sabtu malam...smpi rabu malam...tujuan utama pun nk balik ke triang sbb abang ipar wife seorang muallaf dan dia pun masih close lagi dgn chinese family...memang menarik bila ada family kita ni juga menjayakan konsep 1Malaysia....just nak share a few pics yg diambil di rumah dia...tp byk gambar2 main amik je...gambar aku pun takde...dah jadi tukang amik gambar....takdelah nak amik gambar sendiri....

Ni family cousin wife and my wife

Still lagi family cousin wife and wife

Nurul Iman and cousin dia Daniel

Kenduri doa selamat untuk Pn Intan dan En Syahrul

2010-02-13T08:32:00.000+08:00

Sebulan takde entry...payah jugak nk blog ni...org lain buatkan jadi mcm entry diary/jurnal...kita kunun nk ala2 sastera...last2 apa yg nk tulis...dok tersadai dlm kepala hotak je...pastu dah tak tau kat mana simpan...ok..hari rabu mlm khamis hari tu..kami ke rumah keluarga Pn Intan Sharhida dan En Syahrul...2-2 ni kawan masa kat USM..sama mcm aku ni...laki bini daripada USM...classmate lagi tu...yg tuan rumah ni...2-2 telah bertolak pagi tadi...kalau tak silap pkl 2 pagi..utk ke UK...kerana Pn Intan ni..nk sambung PhD...nak letak pun gambar2 anak2 je lah...pasal masa tu...ada sekali baca yasin...takkanlah lorat nak amik gambar org baca yasin...

Hafiudin Hasif dan Nur Kasih Qaisara

Muizzudin Qayyum dan Nurul Iman

Mintak maaflah Pn Intan dan En Syahrul, kot2 salah ke eja nama...apa2 pun...good luck dan safe journey...

Al-fatihah

2010-01-08T09:08:00.000+08:00

Post yang agak lambat. Kelmarin 6 Januari 2010, saya telah menerima berita mengejut kematian sahabat Hafizullah bin Zulki. Details tentang kemalangan yang menimpa beliau saya terima berdasarkan pelbagai sumber tetapi saya tak dapat menceritakan dengan lebih lanjut sbbnyer takut2 sumber2 campur aduk ni akan lebih merojakkan lagi cerita sebenar. Iyelah lagi pun saya sendiri bukannye saksi kejadian. Tetapi saya harap kepada sesiapa yang mengetahui berita ini terutamanya yang mengenali diri arwah boleh menyedekahkan al-fatihah kepada arwah.

Can you spot the difference?

2010-01-05T12:12:00.000+08:00

So ni entry pertama untuk tahun baru yang dah tertangguh lama dah ni...saje nak uji...boleh tgk tak perbezaan 2 gambar ini?

Haaa...yang mana satu kakaknyer....dgn yg mana satu adiknyer...ke...2-2 ni sama je...orgnyer?....mungkin kene fikirkan ke...heheheh....ni lah baru kira siblings....

Communicating with children

2009-12-22T08:29:00.000+08:00

This is something i would like to share with all of you. I've taken this after google about child parenting. This is a very good paper written by Peggy O. Harrelson. If you google her, she has written a lot about child development. Whenever I try to reason with my eldest daughter i would often reflect back on this. You don't have to thank me but thank her for the wonderful insight.

Communicating with Young Children

Peggy O. Harrelson, Extension Specialist, Child Development, Virginia State University

Communicating positively with young children helps them develop confidence, feelings of self‑worth, and good

relationships with others. It also helps make life with young children more pleasant for children and parents.
Positive communication focuses on respect for the child and involves both speaking and listening. Communication is what we say and how we say it. Positive communication leads to nurturing relationships, cooperation, and feelings of worth. Poor communication can lead to kids who “turn off” adults, conflicts and bickering, and feelings of worthlessness.
Adults sometimes have difficulty communicating positively with children when feelings are involved—
either their own or the child’s. There are ways for parents to improve their communication with children.

Get the child’s attention before speaking

Children can only concentrate on one thing at a time. Look directly at the‑child and call her name. A touch on the shoulder or taking her hand will help get her attention.Give her time to look at you before you start speaking. (Example: “Sarah.” Wait until she stops playing with the doll and looks at you.)

Communicate on the same level as the child

Communication is more effective if both people are on the same level. Adults need to stoop down to the child’s level or sit beside her. Making eye contact with the child lets her know that she has your attention and is much less intimidating to the child.

Speak as if you mean it

Make important requests firmly. Use a firm tone of voice without sounding angry or pleading. Tell the
child what you want her to do and why. Give clear, consistent instructions. Remember your body language.
It should show that you are serious and expect the child to comply. Say “Please,” “Thank you,” and “You’re welcome” to the child. Modeling appropriate behavior is one of the best ways to
get desired behavior from a child. Children also deserve the common courtesies that we, as adults, expect. Children are more likely to carry out desired behaviors when we add these courtesies. Nagging a child to say “please” or “thank you” sets a bad example. They are more likely to use courtesies if they are not constantly reminded.

Make requests simple
Too many requests are confusing for a young child to remember. Make sure that your requests are short, clear and consistent. Laughing at a behavior one time and reacting angrily another sends the child a contradictory message.

Use more positive direction than negative
Positive communication with children uses more “Do’s” than “Don’ts.” In other words, tell the child what to do rather than what not to do. Children respond much quicker to positive demands than negative ones. Allow children to make choices when possible. They are more likely to show appropriate behavior when they have some control over their actions.

Talk with ‑ not at ‑ children
Adults should communicate with children with the respect and consideration they give their friends. Sometimes, adults spend so much time talking “to” the child that they neglect the listening part of communication. Talking with children lets them know that not only do we have something to tell them, but that we are also willing to listen to what they have to say

Nur Kasih Qaisara

2009-12-20T07:18:00.000+08:00

Baiklah sekarang nak bercerita plak pasal anak kedua kami spt nama di atas, Nur Kasih Qaisara. Sblm semua nak berfikir yg nama ni mcm cantuman 2 siri tv yg baru2 ni agak terkenallah kat TV3, sbnrnya wife saya dan saya bersetuju atas nama ni dah lama sblm siri2 tv tu kuar. Masa tu baru2 dpt tahu pasal wife pregnant.

Inilah dia org nya baru sehari selepas kuar ke dunia yg fana' ni.

Nama: Nur Kasih Qaisara
Tarikh Lahir: 10/10/2009
Waktu Lahir: 11:41am
Tempat Lahir: Hospital Lati, Pasir Mas, Kelantan

Kira nilah mek kelate kedua lps mak dia. Berat2 lahir masa tu 2.7kg. Kira berat skit banding dgn kakak dia.

Baru 2 hari lps kuar 12/10/2009. Nk bukak mata punyelah susah

Haa...ni dah nampak sihat skit....dah sebulan masa tu 13/11/2009. Ni antara gambar yg nasa next post akan saya tunjukkan sesuatu yang menarik.

Ini plak gambar latest baru 3 hari lps amik. Kenapa puting tu? Itulah boleh kata teman setia dia buat sementara ni. Nak bagi dia tenang. Nama pun pacifier.

Nurul Iman

2009-12-17T23:18:00.001+08:00

Okay, so dah start malas nak berblog dalam english sebabnyer rasa mcm bersajak plak padahal baru nak masuk post ketiga, takpelah lagi pun kalau dalam bm ni rasa mcm sempoi skit plak.

Ni nak memperkenalkan skit pasal anak sulung kami yg dah kami gelar kakak

Nama: Nurul Iman

Tarikh Lahir: 26 Mac 2007

Waktu Lahir: 02:43 am

Tempat Lahir: Hospital Sultan Haji Ahmad Shah, Temerloh, Pahang

Ni dua-dua gambar masa dia baru berumur 3 hari. Berat lahir masa tu baru 2.6kg

Baru seminggu 01/04/2007

Ni plak dah 3 bulan 01/07/2007

Setahun lebih seronok nak pakai tudung mak dia

Masa hari raya tahun 2008 dengan mak dia

Sekarang Nurul Iman dah berumur 2 tahun 8 bulan dan 9 hari. Tak payah tanya apasal mcm taring tu. Panjang kisah nyer

Memory lane 1

2009-12-16T09:23:00.000+08:00

I left my bachelor life, officially on 26th May 2006 but to classmates they know that i had 'unofficially' ended my bachelor life about 4 years prior. Scouring the hard disk, found photos of the reception and maybe later i will add the nikah ceremony pictures. It was a totally tiring day that day. Appreciate a few friends coming from far to get to the reception.

A sort of custom that most of us follow during the ceremony

Another picture of the lovely couple. Tied my own tie. It was supposed to be done by the mak andam but she was quite busy handling other things. Surely a day to remember for me and my wife.

Now more than 3 years later, here is the latest result.

Our first daughter Nurul Iman. She is now 2 years and 9 months. Our second daughter Nur Kasih Qaisara. She is now just passed 2 months old.

First post

2009-12-16T01:38:00.000+08:00

First post. It took a while but finally i could not resist anymore. Reading someone else's blog. Sometimes chuckling at how people could write about stuffs they do everyday. Finally i thought i would give it a try. So what should i blog about. Actually already tried starting a general interest blog, but knowing that I do not have that in depth knowledge, decided on this cliché subject. Family. I actually wished i had started this blog 3 years ago. Surely a lot i could write about. I do believe in the saying, "Better late than never". So i think i could write about our memories and also our future adventures.